Are you okay? Is New York getting to you? Are things not going according to plan?
Stop whining. For fuck’s sake.
The plan you don’t plan for isn’t the plan you planned but it’s usually more original. Isn’t that why you moved to New York? To be original?
God, you didn’t move to play make-believe, did you?
For every post that Seth Godin writes, he write at least three others, sometimes more:
"That means that on a regular basis, I delete some of my favorite (almost good) writing.
It turns out that this is an incredibly useful exercise. I know that there’s going to be a post, every morning, right here. What I don’t know, what I’m never sure of, is which post.
I find that it’s almost essential to fall in love with an idea to invest the time it takes to make it good and worth sharing. And then, the hard part: deleting that idea when it’s just not what it could be. Too often, organizations are good at the first part, but struggle with the second. And so we defend expired business models, support the status quo and have a knee-jerk inclination to preserve what we’ve got.”
When you get in the habit of breaking your own pottery, it’s a lot easier to ask, “what if?” If you know that it’s okay to break it later, it’s a lot easier to fall in love with it now.
The batter has already hit two home runs. When he gets up to bat for the third time, his confidence is running high… It’s easy to feel confident when we’re on a roll, when the cards are going our way,…… or we’re closing sales right and left. This symptomatic confidence, one built on a recent series of successes, isn’t particularly difficult to accomplish or useful. Effective confidence comes from within, it’s not the result of external events. The confident salesperson is likely to close more sales. The confident violinist expresses more of the music. The confident leader points us to the places we want (and need) to go. You succeed because you’ve chosen to be confident. It’s not really useful to require yourself to be successful before you’re able to become confident.
So. There’s That.
"Profound changes are impending in the ancient craft of the Beautiful." —Paul Valery, 1931
It’s every perfectionist’s mantra: “Why settle for anything less than perfect?”
Strive for perfection and you’ll either a) start to lose your mind b) get nothing accomplished or c) some combination of the two.
Perfectionism is actually deeply flawed. Perfectionists set themselves up for constant stress. They resist taking on challenging new work for fear of not being able to deliver. Their progress can easily be paralyzed by impossibly high standards.
From start to finish, every creative task or project we tackle can take on unfathomable proportions when we are unwilling to settle for anything less than perfect. Elizabeth Grace Saunders, a time coach and self-proclaimed recovering perfectionist knows all too well how easy it is to slip into the danger-zone of perfectionism. Here are three common perfectionist roadblocks Saunders identifies and how to overcome them:
1. REALIZE THAT THERE WILL NEVER BE A PERFECT TIME TO START.
Getting started is often the biggest hurdle to any creative project. You need the right inspiration, work environment and uninterrupted time. But waiting for the perfect time to start can mean never starting. Usually wherever you start out won’t be the actually beginning to your end-product, so why belabor the results from the get-go?
JUST START SOMEWHERE, GET SOMETHING DOWN, AND LET IT LOOK UGLY.
Instead of agonizing about not getting work done or lamenting that you don’t have the time, space or resources you need—just start somewhere, get something down, and let it look ugly. “Expecting too much too soon can be a fatal mistake,” writes Alan Watt in his book The 90-Day Novel.
Taking too long to get started is why perfectionists often find themselves scrambling at the end of a project, says Saunders, having belabored the beginning without factoring enough time to get to the end.
2. WHEN ALL YOUR WORK DOESN’T PRODUCE TANGIBLE RESULTS.
If every detail must be perfect, you’ll have a hard time making progress. We often get in our own way, wanting to make sure every word or line or idea we lay down is accurate. But trying to iron all the kinks along the way can be exhausting.
To avoid this kind of burnout, Saunders recommends defining a specific end goal and then outlining the steps you need to take to get there. When you look at what must be done and the steps to get there, weighed against how much time you actually have, you can start budgeting your time more effectively before it’s too late.
CREATE A NEW IDEA OF WHAT IT MEANS TO BE FINISHED
Set milestones throughout a project to allow yourself to keep pushing forward, rather than looking impossibly far ahead to the end. Most importantly: this requires letting the work be good enough.
3. IF IT’S FLAWED, IT’S NOT DONE.
Look hard enough and you will always find flaws. You will always see imperfections and inadequacies. Instead, create a new idea of what it means to be “finished,” suggests Saunders. Establish a set of minimum requirements that must be met in order for your project to be complete.
Once you’ve met those requirements, allow yourself to consider it done. If you have more time once you reach this point, you can go back and make improvements, but don’t let perfect be the enemy of good enough.
From Art F City
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